Tuesday, 1 March 2016

The Future is Freaking me Out

I've never really been one to be overly scared about the future, having had a 7 year life plan since the age of 5 I've always felt pretty prepared for what's in store. However, recently I've been freaking out, and I mean really freaking out. I lie down to go to sleep at night and am suddenly met with a million 'what ifs' running through my head. What if I get a bad degree? What if I graduate and hate my job? What if I never get married? What if I don't have kids? What if Ant and Dec stop hosting I'm a Celeb? (The last one is only kind of a joke). I think I've suddenly hit an age where everything is just starting to feel so real. The future I used to daydream about when I was 16 is happening like right now and umm I'm not ready, can we start that again?





I guess the scariest thing about this whole future malarky really is that there's no way of knowing what's going to happen, although maybe that's a good thing. It sounds morbid but when you think about it, there's pretty much no way of us all reaching our 80s without some pretty heartbreaking stuff happening along the way and that's a terrifying thought. However, on the flip side, it makes me so excited to think about the things that have still to happen and the places I've still to see. On a timeline of our lives we've only lived for a tiny fraction of it and there's so much time left for amazing adventures, meeting new people and having new experiences.

As I sit here writing this in Starbucks in a caffeine fuelled state of emotion (other coffee shop chains are available), I look around and wonder if I'm the only one who feels like this. I'd love to be the type of person who really truly lives in the moment but that's a skill I'm yet to develop. I'm always on the go and thinking about the next thing - the next assignment I have due or the next exciting thing to look forward too and I'm worried that the present will eventually just rush past me if I keep undermining it's importance.

I saw a pretty picture of a quote recently which I did post on Instagram briefly before realising that omg that does not match my Insta theme umm slyly delete that asap, nothing to see here people. So your gal just posted it on Twitter instead, a suitable compromise. It said 'Be happy with what you have whilst working for what you want' and was supposedly said by Helen Keller (but in reality probs just by the genius behind the Common White Girl Twitter account). With the upmost respect, our gal Helen was deaf and blind so if she could be happy with the present whilst still striving for a better future what excuse have I got?!

 However, reading it made me realise that it's actually ok, and completely natural, to think, and even worry, about the future. It's approaching fast and furiously so ignoring it's existence isn't helpful for anyone. But acknowledging the future doesn't invalidate the present, in fact, it only increases its importance because right now is when we have the chance to actually do things to better our future. I will graduate with a good degree because I'm going to work hard for it now. I will like my job because I'm going to try now to make it the most positive experience it can be. And as for the marriage thing? If I manage to get my sometimes irrational hormones and inability to share food under control, you never know.

Yes there's so many external factors about the future that we can't control but being aware of that means that we control freaks can get ourselves as prepared as possible. Working hard to give ourselves the best chance is only half the battle, we need to let go of that fear of the future and realise that hey actually I'm strong, adaptable and just down right cool enough to handle whatever life throws at me (whilst looking hella cute because have you seen what I'm wearing today?!). It's fine. I'm fine, you're fine and we're all going to be fine, promise.
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  1. I'm definitely a control freak so the future really scares me! But I'm also very excited and am going to embrace every opportunity I have. Great post x

    hannahsnotebook.net

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    1. I'm the exact same, thank you! Xx

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  2. Loved this so much!

    moremindfulyou.blogspot.com

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  3. Love this post! I can completely relate, I always had the goal of going to uni and had something to work towards, but now I graduate next year and I don't have a plan for when I finish, which scares me so much! I think it's difficult to not plan when you're a student though. The future definitely scares me!

    Hannah xx | hannahemilylane.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you! I definitely think it gets scarier as you get closer to graduating and leaving the Uni bubble!! Don't get too worried about not having a plan, I'm sure everything will fall in to place. Xx

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  4. This post a) made me laugh b) made me feel less stressed out! Thank you

    Parie x
    classandglitter.com

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    1. Aww I'm so glad to hear that!! Xx

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  5. This is such a great post and has perfectly put my thoughts into words haha. I have been feeling this way for a few months and it's stressing me out! I feel like I'm in such a rush to be in the future because I need to know if it's gonna work out alright. Also, you've got me stressed now that Ant and Dec might stop hosting I'm A Celeb lool! x

    Celeste | www.celesteinayear.com

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    1. Aww thank you, I'm honestly exactly the same!! We just need to trust that everything will turn out okay and just focused on the good things happening right now! Ohh gosh, I couldn't cope! Xx

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  6. This post restored my faith in not necessarily needing to know where i want to go with my life, so thank you Em. I am also in love with the candle in the picture.
    Lovely post, as ever! (When isn't an Unf4bul0us post anything other than amazing?)

    Love, Maddie. | http://ohsomaddie.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Aww I'm so glad lovely. Ohh thank you, I don't want to burn it because it just looks too pretty and fresh! You're just the sweetest, thanks for all your lovely comments, they always make me smile. Xx

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  7. Thank you so much for your encouraging words, really needed this right now! I definitely worry about the future a lot too - I have all those big dreams of what I want my life to look like but I'm scared I never actually will be able to turn them into reality. Also there's a lot of pressure from the outside at the moment - I'm finishing school at the end of the year & there are all these teachers and other people constantly asking what I want to do afterwards. This post really helped a lot & made me realise I shouldn't stress so much about it :) x

    Sara / AboutLittleThiings

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    1. Aww I'm so glad to hear that! I'm exactly the same, sometimes it can feel like a lot of pressure to fit in everything you want to achieve in this short life!! Don't worry about finishing school, you've got so much time to decide what you want to do and you can change your mind 100 times if you want to!! Xx

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  8. Love this post, I am in my final year of uni and it is officially hitting me that I need to get my life together, quick! Everything feels like such a rush, travelling, jobs, family etc. I think more of us need to take the 'I am going to be fine' approach to life.

    em xx

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  9. Ah, people in their 30s still struggle with life and the fear of the unknown so you are not alone. I think it is so important to remember to live in the moment and for the near future because we cannot always control life. No matter what plan we have, there will be deviations, roadblocks and messes that are unanticipated. You kind of have to be like water, easily swirling about without giving too much resistance to change. :)

    S .x http://ramblingsofayoungprgirl.blogspot.com

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